Codependency

I was talking to a friend today and sharing some experience, strength & hope with her around CODEPENDENT Behaviors. When feeling triggered by her boyfriend's interaction with other girls..

I said.. you have to allow this freedom or you are going to make that person miserable and feel not free.. a healthy relationship allows other friendships.... if you fear abandonment or are jealous of outside Energy exchange you need to look at yourself and what it is in You that gets so triggered. And What needs healing.

~☆((See next post about triggers))☆~

This overly attached and overly in his/her business will push him/her away and suffocate the relationship.

You don't want to be the only Source of this person's social energy exchange... why? Because eventually you will become the only source of energy & become depleted.

Just take a step back and focus on Yourself and what Yooou are here for in the world!!!

What Purpose is Yoooour existence providing for humanity, your family, your friends, your commumity?

Work on being patient... everything will work out... Because the Universe is always working things out for you.. whether he/she is in your life or not ... You have to learn to Trust The Divine.

The Spirit of Universe Loves the Patient because the Patient Trust the Process of Divine Unfolding. AND Knows the Universe is At Work for You, 𝐚lways trying to make things 𝐄xceedingly & 𝐀bundantly better than You could have designed for yourself. If you can get out of your own way by Trusting the Divine's Plan and cease pushing Your own agenda ..it will make sense later when more is revealed.

𝐘𝐨𝐮 𝐝𝐨𝐧'𝐭 𝐰𝐚𝐧𝐭 𝐭𝐨 𝐭𝐫𝐚𝐩 𝐬𝐨𝐧𝐞𝐨𝐧𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐥𝐨𝐯𝐞.

𝐓𝐡𝐚𝐭𝐬 𝐥𝐢𝐤𝐞 𝐩𝐮𝐭𝐭𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐚 𝐝𝐨𝐦𝐞 𝐨𝐯𝐞𝐫 𝐚 𝐟𝐥𝐚𝐦𝐞... 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐨𝐱𝐲𝐠𝐞𝐧 & 𝐬𝐩𝐚𝐜𝐞 𝐢𝐬 𝐬𝐨 𝐬𝐦𝐚𝐥𝐥 𝐢𝐭 𝐰𝐢𝐥𝐥 𝐪𝐮𝐢𝐜𝐤𝐥𝐲 𝐛𝐮𝐫𝐧 𝐨𝐮𝐭, 𝐥𝐞𝐚𝐯𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐚 𝐧𝐚𝐬𝐭𝐲, 𝐬𝐦𝐨𝐤𝐞𝐲 𝐛𝐥𝐚𝐜𝐤 𝐬𝐨𝐨𝐭 𝐨𝐯𝐞𝐫 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐨𝐧𝐜𝐞 𝐜𝐫𝐲𝐬𝐭𝐚𝐥 𝐜𝐥𝐞𝐚𝐫 𝐠𝐥𝐚𝐬𝐬 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐞𝐧𝐜𝐚𝐬𝐞𝐬 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐫𝐨𝐬𝐞 𝐨𝐟 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐫𝐞𝐥𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐬𝐡𝐢𝐩..

...Open & Closed Systems...

Healthy relationships allow Open Systems and Trust. If you are Pushing for a Closed Systems it's coming from Trauma & Fear and Needs to be Processed. . .

No one wants to feel Claustrophobic, Suffocated, Overly Depended on Emotionally... See Blog Post: The Other Side of the Coin

It IS a lot of pressure to put on someone

TO BE THEIR GOD.. Their Idol...

And they will inherently Run.

Or cause vicious cycles. Literally vicious.

NO it's NOT their Job to fill YOUR Cup. Your Void.

Your Heart.

YOUR Soul.

Your Spiritual Wellness.

Your Spiritual Malady.

Your Grief.

Your Loss of Self.

Your wounds &

Your Broken Pieces..

You are asking a Limited Human, whose cup can also be Easily dried up to provide you a SOURCE.. of Spirirual Essence to drink from?

To quench this unquenchable feeling.

I doubt they ever even could.. quench it for Long...

Because they are NOT the Everlasting, 𝐄𝐯𝐞𝐫 𝐀𝐛𝐮𝐧𝐝𝐚𝐧𝐭, Omnipotent, Radiant, Overflowing Fountain of Unlimited LOVE..

That we Have from God/Spirit/Source!

That IS what your Soul is Craving & Searching for my loves.

There is an Unlimited Source to fill our Cups, Our Voids, Our Holes, Our Cravings, Our Desertion, Our Fear, Our Need for Love & Attention ~ So Turn Your Attention to the Spirit of Truth...

...it is YOUR JOB

& God/Spirit/Source's JOB

to fill your Cup, not that person.

And These behaviors are like your body's Spiritual Check Engine Light...

An Indication of *Spiritual Sickness*

& The NEED to turn our Attention to God/Spirit/Source and Off the other person..

The NEED to spend more time on Spiritual Wellness.

"𝐘𝐨𝐮 𝐦𝐮𝐬𝐭 𝐥𝐨𝐯𝐞 𝐢𝐧 𝐬𝐮𝐜𝐡 𝐚 𝐰𝐚𝐲 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐩𝐞𝐫𝐬𝐨𝐧 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐥𝐨𝐯𝐞 𝐟𝐞𝐞𝐥𝐬 𝐟𝐫𝐞𝐞" -Thich Nhat Hanh..

This one ^^ is tattooed on my shoulder... Why? Because I never knew how to do that before.. and I am dedicated to continuing to learn how to do that and help others along my own Journey.

~☆ We Rise Together ☆~

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