The Other Side of the Coin

I’ve been getting a lot of lessons and perspectives lately, on certain things that are on the other side of the coin of Love Addiction/Codependence. I spent much of my life being on the overly attached side and now I am seeing from the other side, just how this makes people feel, as people try to attach & overly depend on me.

Topics of Runner - Chaser dynamics - will write about in another post.

Love Avoidance versus Love Addiction

What it feels like to be suffocated by dependence which is the Foundational experience that is said to create Love Avoidant types. Because a common theme in love avoidance was growing up with a caregiver whom the child was forced to care for the caregiver's emotions and felt consumed by it that they develop an avoidance to that neediness.

However, they continue to attract this by avoidance... but ultimately our life attracts things that Still need to be worked through until we essentially ---- what I have found to be true on BOTH sides of this coin, of 'Love Addiction of Love Avoidance', is the Need to have appropriate BOUNDARIES.

As Love Addicts have almost no boundaries, unable to provide them for onesself, and allows them to be crossed because of the need for "love"

And on the other side ..Love Avoidants have extreme boundaries that are like Brick Walls keeping everyone out.

Both stem from 'not wanting to be hurting again' - Love avoidance = not wanting to be overly depended on and suffocated

Love Addicts feeling unloved, abandoned and uncared for by the world. Constantly seeking it.

Until one learns to fully love oneself and flow with right sized boundaries, not too low and not too high, the dynamics from The Original Foundational Experience will keep playing out.

And learning to communicate effectively.

Replaying cycles, despite it feeling like repeating psychological torture, is actually a GIFT that the Universe, Life, God/Spirit, gives to us for the chance to Learn, Grow, Heal & Ascend past these scenarios. And they will keep showing up over and over again until we choose differently. Behave differently. Step over and around rather than being consumed into the Illusion of self Acting out on this Stage.

See an Eye.. looking from above watching the scene.